Happy Anniversary. This time last year sucked! Next year will soar! And look at how great you're doing now.
Great job at maintaining your boundaries. You heard her request, didn't take the emotional bait and moved on.
I understand how 'soon to be and/or former spousal activities' can rankle within. What they do in their life is none of your/my/our business. But it still causes that burst of negative energy.
Case in point. My darling daughter was resplendent last night for the semi formal dance. We peeked at photos taken last year and she looked equally lovely. Yet what I saw in the background was the original art painting the former spouse took as part of the marital division, even though it was mine! My first thought when I saw that image was FU.. thinking of him.
I reminded myself that stuff is stuff, I loved the paintings while I had them BUT the most important part of the photo is the face of my daughter.. what is the now, not the past.
As I was reading your post I heard my oldest answer the phone, say, "Hi, Dad.. what are you doing in Japan?" My mind started gnawing on that old bone.. I remember asking him those questions, being part of what is going on. Wait.. I have nothing to do with him and am just happy not knowing anything about him. How can that be after knowing someone almost three decades. God I hate talking to him. Ugh, I have to deal with his email. Chomp chomp chomp on de bone. Perspective assuages the emotions.
I'd like to go dancing with you sometime.. the waltzy type. You're light on your feet sidestepping minefields.
*hugs*
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