Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Lost - I so appreciate you always being there to talk to me and help me from across the ocean. I have learned not to tell the girls when mom is coming home, except this Friday, I mean when she offering to pick up the pizza, I thought it was safe. WOW. And I don't get it at all...because she gets so upset when she misses everything and then other times avoids the opportunities. I can handle the rollercoaster but it isn't fair to the kids. I'll have to look for some opportunities this week for new things. Got any ideas - throw them my way

Currently wife is at emergency room with older daughter who seems to have a nasty ear infection. W offered to go, I said fine, I'll stay here with younger one. Younger one threw a fit again about not getting to spend time with mom, and the opportunity arose to mention the dream...I did it casually...said something like I don't know last night she is waking crying dreaming about who is going to take her to ballet and now this. That got a reaction - big facial expression - she knew darn well what that was about. W just called, classic ear infection as suspected, amazingly quick trip, W now trying with girls, talked to younger one on phone and is off to get donuts for her.

Lotus - contact with OM--I'm with you on not entirely being work related and boy I hope you are right about things cooling I suspect there is still contact, but I can't prove anything and I have really throttled back trying to almost nothing at this point. If they are communicating like I suspect, then it is thru on-line chats that I couldn't trace, probably mostly on Iphone and some on her laptop.

Or, she could have purchased another pay as you go phone. I have the old one, and this weekend she put the car/wall chargers on the counter where I normally put my stuff. not a word about them...and to this point I've ignored them too. Before the weekend is over, I'll probably collect them if she doesn't say something about them. I have no idea what to make of her handing over the chargers like that-she said she would, just odd on how and the timing. Obviously, based on timing, they were being kept at work.