Moving back in

[flowmom]

I almost always have a kid around me so that will help with any trickery on her part..

This concerns me too. Using your children as witnesses is involving them inappropriately in the drama. Don't kid yourself, some therapist will get rich off your kids some day if this stuff continues. It horrifies me to think of them having to report on your and your W's actions, to the police or anyone else. That's not their role. If you are speaking to the police, you should request privacy and speak to them without your children present. Your children are not emotionally equipped to play the roles that you are expecting them to play (taking your side, buffering you from your W's actions). I think that a voice recorder or using another adult as a witness is a much better option. You guys don't need legal advice right now as much as you need professional support in developing a coparenting relationship. You are both losing perspective on what your children need from you right now.

I wish you the strength and clarity that you need right now.