Somewhat off topic but have you ever heard of the The Holmes-Rahe Social Adjustment Scale

http://honolulu.hawaii.edu/intranet/committees/FacDevCom/guidebk/teachtip/stress.htm (bottom of page)

I don't know why but I thought it would be of interest to really realize how traumatic a D is. The only thing worse on the scale is death of a spouse.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)