I'd suggest taking the day and re-reading all of the posts you've received so far, NSW. You've gotten some great advice, and your roadmap is all in there.
You just need to decide you're going to be self-disciplined enough to follow it.
Puppy
Puppy,
You're right...I know what I need to do...GAL, focus on me and my daughter, detach, and dont communicate with the SO unless my daughter is ill or something. It's the self discipline that usually gives me trouble.
This morning was really hard for me. My SO came over to get our daughter. My D and I were playing and so my SO sat down for a few minutes, but she and I never really talked directly to one another. Given that over the past week it seemed like we were getting closer and to then go to not speaking really tore me up inside.
I know I cant/shouldnt...but I really wanted to ask her if this was really necessary and why couldnt she just forgive me for Friday.
I still have anger at the OM for being a predator and taking advantage of the situation. As I've said, my SO did this to me once before about 5 years ago, but there wasnt a guy to swoop in and fill her void, so she had to deal with being single, and she ended up coming back to me after we spent time together. With him there, and with what happened Friday night, that isnt likely to happen.
But theres nothing I can do to split them up...anything I could do would only push them closer...again like Friday night. I wasnt trying to split them up or ruin their evening...I didnt know he was there...but it still hurt me.
Oh well...she is gonna be back with our D in about 3 hours...one more hurdle to go for the day.
