She also told me it was a BRAVE decision to make which I found unbelievable.
The version I heard, and I think it's identical to your's, is "it took a lot of courage for me to tell you I can't be M'd to you anymore." So, same thing here.
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The one thing I find incredible and I don't know if this is script, but when she dropped the bomb it was like she just turned a light switch off, thats it, its all over no discussion....period. I would have thought 15 years and two beautiful children would have meant something, but it is like we never knew each other.
If I didn't know better, I would think my W has moved to the UK and was M'd to you. My W decided we would get D'd before ever telling me. Once that decision was made, she has had no looking back. "It's done."
And, I, too, thought 15 years together (13 M'd) with two beautiful children would have made her at least go to MC just to confirm there is nothing left, but it didn't.
So, I have heard the same things. Doesn't hurt any less, but it is easier to understand. Our W's are very confused and are hurting. To them, the pain of staying exceeds the pain of leaving. It's that simple. And until they can be willing to question what the believe, there's not a damn thing we can do other than keep improving us and moving on with our lives. Our kids will need us.
