I see your point Puppy, but I think with my WAW this is not the time to play too hard to get. I know that she needs to feel like I want to be near her and that I miss her. Not to the point that I am pleading for her or persuing or making any demands of her, but that I simply be honest and pay some attention to her when she makes the first move.
There are lots of people here who would be thrilled to be at this point with their WAW. I have made a lot of mistakes this time around, but sometimes I need to go with my gut based on what I know about my WAW.
[quote=BeTheMan]I see your point Puppy, but I think with my WAW this is not the time to play too hard to get. I know that she needs to feel like I want to be near her and that I miss her. Not to the point that I am pleading for her or persuing or making any demands of her, but that I simply be honest and pay some attention to her when she makes the first move.
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There are plenty of ways to do that, short of a "Sure" the very first time she pulls your string. "That sounds really nice, but I'm sure you can understand my reluctance, considering all that's happened. Let me give it some thought, and we can discuss it sometime soon" would be much more appropriate, in my opinion.
There's a huge gulf between "hard to get" and an immediate "Sure!"
[quote=BeTheMan]I see your point Puppy, but I think with my WAW this is not the time to play too hard to get. I know that she needs to feel like I want to be near her and that I miss her. Not to the point that I am pleading for her or persuing or making any demands of her, but that I simply be honest and pay some attention to her when she makes the first move.
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There are plenty of ways to do that, short of a "Sure" the very first time she pulls your string. "That sounds really nice, but I'm sure you can understand my reluctance, considering all that's happened. Let me give it some thought, and we can discuss it sometime soon" would be much more appropriate, in my opinion.
There's a huge gulf between "hard to get" and an immediate "Sure!"
Puppy
Got it. Too late now, but what I won't do is bring it up. I will ensure she makes the offer and then not respond immediately and still positively, but choose my words carefully.
WAW just left after the usual Sunday dinner with S16, she and I.
While she was making dinner she caught me looking down her top. She said "I can show them to you" and that's what she did. That led to some fondling in the kitchen, including her touching me "there".
Thankfully (well...in some ways) I stopped it. Good thing too, since S16 came downstairs and into the kitchen moments later.
We then had dinner together and she left right after since she was tired. We never even played Scrabble she was so looking forward to. She said she would like us all to have dinner this Wed and asked for a kiss when she left.
What the heck do I make of this and where do I go from here????
