It seems amazing to me in how so many us seem to be part of the same script.
I feel I have changed but my W does not. She said I was so like my father who is from the 'old school' - very black and white, quite chauvanistic and has a short fuse. I, more often than not have ignored the terrible things my W has written and said, which I believe has made her even more angry because I have not reacted the way my father would have.
The times I have responded has resulted in terrible 'text arguments' which do not achieve anything and gives my W 'reason' for wanting a D in the 'I told you so' vein.
I believe you are right about this being more about her than me. She is 41 and obviously felt her life was too domesticated and boring, she told me months ago me she gets lot of attention and offers, which even now is very hurtful to here. She also told me it was a BRAVE decision to make which I found unbelievable. To me, it is one of the most SELFISH things you can do, and like you I would loved to have sat down with my W and discuss everything that was wrong and discuss solutions to our issues, but sadly that time never happened.
The one thing I find incredible and I don't know if this is script, but when she dropped the bomb it was like she just turned a light switch off, thats it, its all over no discussion....period. I would have thought 15 years and two beautiful children would have meant something, but it is like we never knew each other.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
