42 days...hey what's that? What? OMG, it is the finish line...I see it!!
This too, shall indeed pass good friend.
Hugs & support coming at you from so many hearts and souls Frank, you can't be that good a liar, you gotta be one of the good guys for so many of us to care this way.
You will be fine with your children, no matter what happens Someday your son, and daughter too, will have the right to choose where they want to be. The Ides of March, the 15th, was originally a festive day of celebration. Let's go with that original take on it and prepare for an ending to this saga, one way or the other. (As opposed to the Caesar assassination that day, memory...)
From my point of view, As long as you/your L make it clear to the court that by granting you custody, the children remain in a "two parent" situation b/c unlike Val, you will allow them to see the other parent as much as feasible. You are the 2 for 1 deal; your wife is NOT. You want this b/c the welfare of your children continues to be the most important thing in your life and the reason your income is not as high as some surgeons, is precisely b/c you believed that these past 20+ months were NOT the time to remove yourself more from the home and marriage but just the opposite.
That's Just my take on it, and maybe useful for explaining to folks or family who don't "get it". Plus weird NY law factors.
((HUGS!! Big time.))
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hmmm...The two for one deal. Be the better choice. Got me thinking. Although safety is an issue, I must remain mindful that my STBX Hus has a right to have a relationship with our children. Perhaps that is supervised, or not, but I cannot just 'cut and run'. If the kids want to spend time with him, that's fine. Just not at my place. I don't trust the guy. I hope that changes someday, and I can find a little bit of forgiveness. Today is not that day.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Thanks all. I notarized a powerful response tonite. If this means nothing, then, I KNOW our system is screwed up.
I see amazing things in my future.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
