MSH, sounds like you are still on the right track. If your W has put some weight on and you think there is another guy, then I would say that R is purely superficial...just trying to fill some companion ship void or something. If she were truely interested in this guy, she would be trying to look her best...at least this is what happend in my sitch.
The D thing in my sitch has had me down the past few days. Just the realization of it and how far gone the W is, has been tough. I keep cycling through thoughts of her (and the OM) and its killer. The woman does not seem to care about anything other than the D and the OM. It is almost like we were never married. She cast me to the side fast!! I know I need to focus on other things but easier said than done. I am like you, how can I still love this woman after all the terrible things she has done.
