I'm finding things have been much better with my W when I stopped worrying, starting acting freakin' confident, tried some crazy things and watched the results.
It's truly amazing that when one stops stressing is when things seem to take a positive turn. I am curious though, what "crazy things" did you try? Sounds interesting.
BTM, I think it's nice that you invited her out to dinner.
Nothing new really in regards to relationship status with WAW. She bought a puppy this week. We already have a small dog and a cat that are "hers" but are at home with me and kids. WAW says she is lonely and needed company. Yesterday, I asked what she is going to do with 2 dogs and a cat in an apartment after we sell the house. No real answer.
Yesterday, She made dinner for us as usual on Sundays and then left right after eating with S16 and I. She gave me a quick peck on the lips and was gone.
WAW left her new puppy with D18 at our house while she went to Dr appt yesterday. More bad medical news for WAW, but nothing official yet, so will deal with that later.
WAW called me and asked if she should bring something so we could all have dinner together last night. First time we all ate together since XMAS vacation, since D18 is always at work on Sundays when WAW and I have dinner with S16.
While cleaning up after dinner, WAW was trying to put something away in a cupboard while I was in the way. She rubbed her breasts against me and it certainly seemed intentional. I made a joke about it and nothing more. We shared a hug at one point and she kissed me on cheek when she left.
It seems to me that WAW really wants attention from me. We are even supposed to play Scrabble this Sunday like we used to. With all that in mind.....I have a question.
Where is the line between being too nice and making WAW feel that I don't care about her? Is the trick to only give her attention when she looks for it - when she comes to "my" house or when she calls or texts first
One thing I know she will need to even consider reconcilation is that she is important to me and that I truly care about her.
I'm not one of the experts but a kiss on the cheek is very "friend"-like. Could it be that you're reading too much into it?
As for your bolded question...I cant answer that. If my SO shows the slightest interest I melt everywhere and end up sticking my foot in my mouth, consequently giving her cold feet.
WAW and I had a brief textversation last night in which she said "I am sad tonight'. I asked why - part of the response: "I miss my kids. I miss you". She also texted that she is "excited about playing Scrabble tomorrow".
I wound up calling her, since I suck at texting. We has a brief talk - mostly about potential changes for me at work. She is coming over today for the usual Sunday dinner. We are also going to play Scrabble as we used to.
D18 told me last night that WAW asked her if she though I would want to do something for Valentines Day.
All this is odd from a woman who moved out 2 months ago.........