This is the first post I have made for about 7 months or so. Basically, my story - WAW had an affair (I think) but never been able to prove it. No mediation, no counselling - she was done with me. Two children D11 and S7.
It has been a year since the bomb and I am still very depressed, lonely and unsure of the future. Our divorce hearing is in a months time and then it is all over, 15 years done and finished. I was told my wife is now dating somebody which felt like a knife going into me, she has stopped all contact with me, only through lawyers. When I go to pick the children up she opens the door from behind it so that I cannot see her, the children comes out and she closes the door.
she is very angry as I occupy the marital home while her and the children live with her parents. Up until recently I had been told I was an unfit father who should just go away and leave her and the children alone, the worst things somebody can say to you, and this had been going on for over a year.
Everything has now stopped as I think her mind is now on her new relationship. She did not even give me the opportunity to discuss my daughters options for her new school which is disgraceful. I have since instructed my lawyer to write a letter telling her to include me in all aspects of the childrens future.
The thing that baffles me the most is that I never gambled, drunk or womanised in all our time together, yet she treats me as though I was the one who asked for a divorce.
I received some great posts from seasoned people here who said she was just trying to justify her reasons for ending our marriage by blaming this on me. Is this still the case after all this time? She does not want to even give me a fair part of a possible house sale to re-start my amd our childrens lives - why is she still behaving like this?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
