I know in my case she tried, I ignored, then she did that as plan B. Is this possibly true in your case?
On some level she did...but thats why they fall into the category of WAS. She tried a little, but didnt come right out and tell me in specifics what was wrong and that we needed to sit down and work on them...then gave up trying and bided her time.
Originally Posted By: MarkG
Read up on borderline personality disorder, specifically the part about valuation/devaluation.
I have no doubt that there is something going on thats not quite right. Her own family has even said that. She had anger issues...and depression...and the depression runs int he family. So it may just be depression, it may be bi-polar, it may be borderline personality disorder. But she has refused to be seen for it on any level, depsite her even acknowledging she has some sort of problem.
After her going off on me about what happened Friday night, saying we're done she's moving on and I blew my chance...I'm very angry at both her and the OM.
I'm not really sure how to act around her now. On some level I want to lay into her and give her a piece of my mind...not only for what she's doing with the OM but for her not seeing that what happened Friday was a mistake that I regret and forgiving me. But I'm sure if I do that it will push her even further away.
At the same time...I'm hurting so badly...it feels like she's left me all over again, and so I'm asking myself if I should really be being nice to her after what she's done to me and our family?
But if I'm not nice, and I push her away, how can I expect to show her I'm the man she fell in love with and a man who's changed a lot since she left?
Of course if she doesnt want to see those changes...when the OM has her eating out of his hand...then what can I do?
