A little long post, but I have some stuff I need to get off my chest.
Well, I made it through S's birthday dinner last night. We went out to a restaurant my S picked. My STBX in-laws were there. While my MIL acts her age, my FIL does not. Has never and at 75, I don't see that changing.
On the way to the restaurant, we took two cars. Not really oddly, but STBXW and STBX FIL in one car, and me, STBX MIL and the kids in mine. STBX MIL breaks part of one of my seatbelts!!! OK, no problem, I tell STBX MIL. I will just have that fixed.
We get to the restaurant. At one point, FIL, who was angry b/c W, who planned the dinner to this place, did not bother to get a reservation on a Saturday night. Too much on her mind? S had told me earlier in the week he wanted me to cook something for him, so I did not make a reservation anywhere. So, FIL is ticked we can't, as a party of 6, be seated immediately, on a Saturday night. He wants to speak to a manager, is outwardly vocal in his displeasure (many could hear) and caps off his childish behavior by slamming down his menu on the table, which makes a loud noise b/c the menus were hard backed.
Making it through dinner was tougher than I thought it would be. I was seated directly across from STBXW, who I simply don't even want to look at. At the same table are my STBX in-laws, who so kindly "loaned" STBXW a LOT of $$$$ for her L's retainer to help her break apart MY family. Tough pill to swallow. Very bitter medicine.
There was one bright spot for me. When we were forced to wait a whole 20 minutes (did I say it was Saturday night and we were a party of 6?!), and after FIL complains that he can't understand why we can't be seated immediately when others (who, BTW, HAVE reservations) are being seated, I calmly respond by saying it's Saturday night, we are a party of 6, we don't have a reservation (hmm, who was supposed to make that reservation again?!) and that it's not reasonable to expect we will be seated as soon as we arrive. That temporarily shut him up, but not for long. Suffice it to say, I will NOT miss FIL's childish, rude outbursts and his sense of entitlement to special treatment wherever he goes. I will have to make sure my kids do not develop those qualities. They are some of my most unfavorite traits/flaws.
So, we finished up dinner eventually. STBX in-laws went from the restaurant to their hotel, and STBXW, kids and I drove home. Not a word b/w W and I on the drive. I did speak to kids.
STBXW went straight to bed, while I stayed up with the kids for about an hour to watch TV, and just cuddle with D6. I LOVE that.
So, today, I have some work to do. I will stay busy with that, then S has baseball try-outs this afternoon late.
Yesterday, I processed a lot of anger, resentment towards W. I did not allow that to control me, and I am managing that well. But, I have NO desire to speak to STBXW about anything.
I am strong, but this has been a tough week guys. I feel pretty strongly about not talking to STBXW. That may not be the most mature thing, but I find it impossible to have a "friend"ly discussion with the woman who so seemingly with ease and not a thought is so determined to tear apart our family. Little bit of a vent there, but that's how I'm feeling. And that's where the anger is coming from.
