Sorry friend you are going through this, but it's normal. Don't fight your emotions. Recognize them, deal with them, let them out, and move on.
The fact is, you don't know what she's up to. And, given that she has filed for D, it's not your problem unless it impacts the children. And even then, you may not be able to do a thing about it.
Certainly let your L know about how W is spending her time with the kids.
I understand the emotional side of this. B/c I have had a tough week with my D as well. It's ok to be angry, hurt, sad. Those are normal reactions of someone who cares and loves. The challenge is not to let those negative emotions overtake you while, at the same time, letting them run their course.
If you don't let them run their course, they will back up on you, sort of like not taking out the garbage. So, let them out (I had to earlier this week), then gather yourself and keep moving forward. Focus on what you CAN control and let go of that which you can't.
And post here for support or to vent. We are all here to help you and one another. So, use that resource.
I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
