Most of the problems I'm having with my h are the same ones his mother has with him.
His mom was in 3 relationships, 2 divorces, has children from each relationship so my h has 1-stepbrother and 1 stepsister and 2 stepsisters on stepfather 3's side (they don't talk because they don't like Jeff's mom being married to thier dad!). His mother's family is very, very affectionate yet do not talk about issues they have with one another. My h has nothing to do with his fathers' families and only just met his biological father last month of which his mother knows nothing about. He refused to talk to his mom about it since she hold a lot of animosity toward his father still...doesn't think he's a good example for Jeff.
My h likes to drink, party, is very avoidant, dodger of conflict, Likes Howard Stern/South Park and shows like Paradise Hotel, non-existant father yet a good provider monetarily and a very hard worker. He's active with his kids now at the urging of his mother. He doesn't talk about anything! not even work or his friends there...he becomes very talkative when drunk.
My h has been divorced before...said his x-w had an A during separation and married the om. I met his x-w, she's very very pretty..we didn't talk but I was in the middle of a name calling episode between them. My h was cursing her out to which she ignored him! They were married for little under 2 years...no kids.
I understand my h to be very, very insecure. Gets very offended when someone he loves doesn't do exactly what they say! Like if I say I'm going to the store and will be back in about 30 minutes...if I'm not back in the alloted time he gets very upset! He likes to be the center of his w world to the exclusion of extended family and his kids. Absolutely no one should intrude on OUR time together...no phone calls, nothing! He's not a very patient man. In a fit a rage, has smacked his kids in the face and hit one in the leg with the end of a broken golf club. Due to his job he sleeps a lot on the day when we are together as a family. Pretty much does what is convenient for him based on how he's feeling at that moment. I don't doubt he loves his kids but does not know how to be a father. Doesn't have many friends that he is close to because he doesn't give of himself even in just conversation.
