Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Now I do have a question - I realize most will not read the long post above. But the one thing is the W didn't want to take D4 to ballet (W has taken daughter to ballet once in the last 3 months). This upset the daughter. Now a few minutes ago, D4 wakes up crying. This has been pretty common, probably 4 nights a week. Tonight I was able to get out of D4 what she was crying about...she was obviously dreaming, but she tells me that she wants mommy to take her to ballet. WOW. So - do I tell the W? Or is this going to seem like pursuit/control or possibly backfire?

W asked me what she was crying about, and for tonight, all I said was that it was something about ballet...W doesn't even look up from facebook and says I have no idea. I then leave the room...