Guys I must be missing something. What was wrong with ElBrads part of that exchange? I don't see it.
Except for initally calling back after the first phone call that probably didn't need a response (because after all she's 4 hours away and it doesn't really matter to you what she's doing) ... what else was wrong?
What else could you say to that gammon bad-weather-picking-up-girlfriend story? You could say what you said or you could call her on it. Calling her on it wouldn't help - so 'OK fine' seems sensible rather than getting dragged into a fight. Did you say "OK Good night" in a cranky way? If not, OK GOod night is a reasonable thing to say to someone.
Validating is a powerful tool for things like your spouse saying “I have no choice but to leave you because you’ve never supported me” - then it’s sensible to say “I understand you feel that way.” Or “I fell out of love with you when you said you’d organise to have the landscaping done, but you never did it” “Your right Ms Elbrad, I should have got that landscaping done” …. But why would you validate stuff that’s simply attention seeking or crazy making?
ElBrad well done on the decisions you’ve made re changing jobs and moving. Shaking up our lives is uncomfortable and scary - but never without reward. Keep remembering that.
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