Cindy, can you fill me in on what you are doing for yourself? Are you "getting a life" beyond your H? Are you taking care of you? Are you going out and doing things that are fun?
I know that when I was desperate...and boy was I ever...that I pushed H away more. When I started doing things for me and stopped calling him and waiting around for his calls...things changed! I can't guarantee it will fix things..but it won't hurt things and it will help YOU. Start really working on doing fun things...do you have a hobby? Did you ever think of taking a community ed class or joining a bible study group or getting a gal pal to start taking walks with you? Going to your kids' soccer games is great...but that's for your kid. What are you doing for you? If you want him to see you as important, independent, attractive, etc...then see yourself that way. Treat yourself well...go get a great new hair cut or a new blouse or a new dress. Even if you have to shop at the Salvation Army thrift shop for bargains...go get yourself something fun and nice.....
Stop focusing soooo much on him and get the focus back on you....YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Hope this helps a little...it worked for me and my R...so even if you know all this already, it never hurts to hear it or read it LOL again...
Be the you that you adore and others will adore you, too.
