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[awest1217]

Today I saw the other half of the conversation and H was not sticking up for me. He wasn't saying anything necessarily bad either, but I am definitely now the OW to OW. He kept lying to her about where he was on Thursday night. He told OW he was spending the night playing with S while I went to church, when he actually called to ask me out to dinner and then stay and hang out for a while. I don't like the waiting, but like you have said, it will take some time to completely break the ties and as long as I am aware and watch for that to end then I am know I am not going to get played again. Yes, he may not be telling me the truth, but he is lying to her more right now, and cynically I smile at it.

More good things. H and I didn't see each other last night, but we did have a good conversation. Today I had science fair in the morning and H text me three times to just say HI, hope things were going well, and i love you. He said to call him when I got home so we could hang out because I asked him to go to his parents with S and I. He constantly said thank you and how much he enjoyed tonight. At one point I did get upset and he asked what was wrong. H's coat smelled like OW and so I told him that calmly. He apologized (never said it wasn't), and said he would throw it in the dryer with a dryer sheet to get rid of the smell. I thought that was nice. We had a lot of fun and when he helped to put S to bed tonight, S asked about daddy staying and sleeping with him. H said soon. Now that could mean weeks, months, or years to H, but usually he is honest with S. Overall there is still progress to be made, but H is doing well, and is at least trying.

I need just be patient and not push too hard. This is usually where I have a hard time because we start getting closer and closer. I want more too quickly for H and so we end up moving apart again. PATIENCE