again, everything your H is doing is nothing new to me. It is what they ALL do. But, YOU get to make the choice of making it better, or making it worse.
I know that all the DB steps are the opposite of what you want to do, but those of us who have gone thru it, know that they work, and is the best chance to save your M. I know this is all confusing, but this is the leap of faith you must take.
It's not about letting him walk all over you. It's about you becoming your greatest self, and setting up healthy boundaries, focus on everything positive and nothing negative, and distantly loving your spouse so that you can lead them to the light and have the biggest chance of saving your M.
Or, you can be like them, give them what they are giving you, treat them the same way, be inconsistent, focus on what they do to you or aren't doing to you and focus on your bitterness and then you will definitely not lead them to the light, but you'll be on a path of deterioration.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
