I'm sure that was a bit strange. Move very, very slowly. If that's what you want. And, most importantly, she needs to work to win you back. If you want her back, and you make this too easy for her to return (IF that's where this is going), then you will probably be right back where you are now in short order.
You're right Gima. She can't have me too easily. Not sure she even wants me to be honest, but I don't know what else she would have come here for if she didn't. We've been through her "coming back" too damn many times only to check out again to keep this crap up though. She seems like such. A headcase.
Like I said, I don't really want the person that I see her as at this point. Every once in a while I see hints of the person she used to be though.
Damn, I can't stand the tough-guy attitude and party girl look that she pulls out. Not the girl that I knew at all. Like I said though, I see glimmers of the old her sometimes.
We would need to get to the point of her being willing to fight for me l. That would be quite a way from where we have been though. Its a long way from fighting to get away from me.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Like I said, I don't really want the person that I see her as at this point. Every once in a while I see hints of the person she used to be though.
Damn, I can't stand the tough-guy attitude and party girl look that she pulls out. Not the girl that I knew at all. Like I said though, I see glimmers of the old her sometimes.
EB...your words have come out of my own mouth for my sitch and SO many times.
It's like theres two different people inside her...and the tough "we're done" "I just wanna have fun" one is who's on the outside now...but every now and then that sweet caring person I fell in love with comes out.
I know that if the girl I used to know and love ever comes back out, she's probably gonna have a hard hard time living with who she became and acted like towards me and a lot of other people.
I brought S8 back to her this afternoon. She had been crying (nice to see she isn't a robot). I asked if I should regret having had kissed her last night. She said no and that she is just having "a day." She said she's frustrated because she "wants it to work, but it's just not."
Sounds like she's done right....?
Then she said she'd like to get together for a "date night" again. WTF?
I historically would have tried to talk through what she wanted, and what she meant by "not working." This time I just told her to let me know what she wants to do and left.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Like I said, I don't really want the person that I see her as at this point. Every once in a while I see hints of the person she used to be though.
Damn, I can't stand the tough-guy attitude and party girl look that she pulls out. Not the girl that I knew at all. Like I said though, I see glimmers of the old her sometimes.
EB...your words have come out of my own mouth for my sitch and SO many times.
It's like theres two different people inside her...and the tough "we're done" "I just wanna have fun" one is who's on the outside now...but every now and then that sweet caring person I fell in love with comes out.
I know that if the girl I used to know and love ever comes back out, she's probably gonna have a hard hard time living with who she became and acted like towards me and a lot of other people.
Well put. And, I agree wholeheartedly. Every now and then, I see glimpses of the woman I fell in love with and M'd. Then, as quickly as she appears, she's gone again.
