Not sure if this qualifies as piecing or not...

[TrentC]

I know.

And the more I think about it, the more I think that separation will not be the worst thing in the world for us.

Several people have asked me what I want. Besides the obvious -- to stay married to a woman that I have loved for 12 years -- I don't know anymore. If we stay together, I have to find myself again. If we split up, I definitely have to find myself again.

My biggest fear for her (call it co-dependancy, call it compassion) is that she will leave our relationship and end up miserable because she will never address her emotional issues. Or worse, that she will rediscover herself but feel like she can never talk to me again because I wouldn't be able to forgive her.