i have been doing a bunch of things for me...new haircut, new color some new work clothes, a few books to read,getting LONG showers, coffee on the way to work...silly things that used to make me happier...and i have realized they still do! they make me feel more alive!
This is a great beginning.
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its not that I want him to magically want to come around, I want him to see that people and situations can change. people can find themselves after being caught up in everyday life and forgetting who you are.
This is an expectation and not something that you can control.
Yes, ultimately, it will be the changes he sees that MAY make him look your way.
But you can not force him to see them. You cannot force him to learn that people change. It is something that may or may not begin to happen as he moves down his own path.
However, that does NOT mean that you should not make the changes that you think are necessary, changes that you want to make. For yourself. For your future.
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sorry also if this sound defensive! i was so proud of myself! honestly it is not a ploy...i need to be the person i used to be...for me! i need these things to simply be my nature again...they were all lost along the way somehow.
Recognizing this, is what Trapt and Mach were talking about.
This is where the real work begins.
Finding yourself, who you were compared to who you became, weeding out what you don’t like, keeping what you do, bringing back what you feel you lost, taking new risks…healing, learning, loving, and living.
That is our part of this journey. Honestly doesn’t sound so different than theirs.
It is all in the approach…..
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
