Im now piecing with H have been since Xmas, but one of the things he came out with the other day was how hard he found it to realise how bad I thought of him, it seemed whilst in fogland he couldnt see that if hed gone so far already that having an A was only the next step and I could see that happening, thankfully I rescued the situation by saying I didnt think he was bad I just feared how bad he could go although something always told me he wouldnt, I didnt say that I wasnt convinced he wouldnt.
One of the sentances I always used when H didnt like my 180's was that I wasnt doing it to annoy him but doing to retain my mental and physical well being. As in I cared for him but I was and am still going to put myself first, one thing that really gelled with him was when I stated that I had realised I was a woman first and a wife and mother second and third. I think he wanted the woman back not the wife/mother persona I had taken on.
There is nothing wrong with being pleasant and nice but dont allow cake eating in any way shape or form, show that you now respect yourself too much to allow any of the crap he is dishing out to affect you, you can let it be known that as and when he finishes with OW then you are ready to listen and see what can be done but till then tough bananas your staying true to yourself.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
