I bought her a bouquet of lilies, put them in a vase, and left that and a sympathy card on her desk.

This is what the card said:
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[Wife],

I can only imagine the grief and the loss you must have felt when you received the news from the doctor about your future.

This is the most soul-wrenching news that you could have ever expected to receive; and I know that this changes our future forever.

I love you very much, and I am grieving this loss more intensely than I could have ever imagined.

I know that you have doubts about us, but I have faith that the two of us are still only the beginning of a family. That family began with [Cat one], [Cat two] and [Dog one]. And we have already overcome the loss of [Cat one] and [Dog one], and our family grew again to include [Dog two], [Dog three], and [Dog four].

So I know that we will heal from this, and that our family will grow again in the near future to include children.

I long for the day when you choose to commit to this family again. I know that you will not regret it.

With all of my heart,
Your loving husband,
[me]

(NOTE: Dog three does not live with us any more. We found a good home for her -- next door, in fact.)

I know she read the card, but I have not discussed it with her yet.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."