I bought her a bouquet of lilies, put them in a vase, and left that and a sympathy card on her desk.
This is what the card said: ===== [Wife],
I can only imagine the grief and the loss you must have felt when you received the news from the doctor about your future.
This is the most soul-wrenching news that you could have ever expected to receive; and I know that this changes our future forever.
I love you very much, and I am grieving this loss more intensely than I could have ever imagined.
I know that you have doubts about us, but I have faith that the two of us are still only the beginning of a family. That family began with [Cat one], [Cat two] and [Dog one]. And we have already overcome the loss of [Cat one] and [Dog one], and our family grew again to include [Dog two], [Dog three], and [Dog four].
So I know that we will heal from this, and that our family will grow again in the near future to include children.
I long for the day when you choose to commit to this family again. I know that you will not regret it.
With all of my heart, Your loving husband, [me]
(NOTE: Dog three does not live with us any more. We found a good home for her -- next door, in fact.)
I know she read the card, but I have not discussed it with her yet.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement