WAW now pregnant.....not mine

[MarkG]

Notice in my sig I have a SD between my other kids.... My son was from before I met my W, we had a D5, SD2, and D1. She left me in 06, OM was abusive, she came back, I was taken, she left, got pregnant, I became single, she came back again. There was a possibility both ways because I cheated on my short term GF with my W while she was back. I knew it probably wouldn't be my child, and her expectation of me was if I was going to be with her it was going to be because I wanted her, not because the baby was mine. She defined a deal-breaker that if I didn't take her back before the pregnancy she wouldn't take me back at all. Sounds kind of demanding from a woman who is likely pregnant with another man's child, right? But I disagree because she explained her intentions. She wanted to make sure I loved her and if I didn't take her back regardless of the outcome of a DNA test she wouldn't believe me when I told her I loved her if the child was mine. As far as the child, it's hard to not fall in love with any child living with you. Many of our friends didn't know she wasn't mine biologically, and the majority who did still said I was the real dad. This is not to say things will be great forever - new things come up all the time. After we got back together we had 2 wonderful years, even better than before the breakup, but there were unaddressed issues waiting to be triggered. We have been put through so much hell by outside forces that our darkest inner selves came out. We tore eachother up badly, and stuck through it all until finally she couldn't take any more. We had hung on for 6 months of the worst things 2 people could do to eachother. Here's another thing to take into consideration, although I doubt if this really would apply to your case. Do you know for a FACT that she is pregnant? Have you seen a positive pregnancy test or something else definitive? The reason I ask is because my W has been pregnant no less than 3 times since she left this time. It's funny how she got pregnant that many times, because she had her tubes tied after our last. She wants a baby, something to connect her with OM, and that would be it... but it's not possible. This is a decision you have to make about the possibility of raising someone else's child. I do know that things can get better, but I would advise that you seek help doing it. Our main problem has been her mental disorders, and if we had addressed those I think all our other problems would have been workable before they escalated to where they did.