Where in the world did that come from !!!

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I see your point, I see both sides of the argument, but especially the negativily exposure could cause in WAS towards LBS.

I've talked over exposure with the kids, they all agree that it isn't a good idea and think it will "make mum hate you".

So I'm going to sit on my hands as far as that goes for the time being. If OM were married (and I wish that he was) then it would be a different story I think and much easier, after all, his W would have a right to know.

I think that I'm starting to see longing in WAW towards the kids, and possibly a bit of awakening that they aren't really interested in her. Her very short interactions with them I'm sure are causing her to miss them and their coolness towards her must hurt like daggers - especially when she says goodbye to them. Maybe that will finish up being her "rock bottom".

OM has a 12 or 13 year old D, as far as I can remember back (5 years or so) it's been just the 2 of them - not sure what happened to his M.

I'd guess that OM's D wouldn't be all that thrilled with a new woman taking all of daddy's time and attention from her - well I hope that's the case anyway and I could be wrong after all I'm not a 13 year old girl. If that's the case then that rejection will hurt WAS more.

I really think that the best thing I can do now is to show WAS that I'm getting on with my life, as are the kids and that we don't NEED her, but at the same time leaving the door slightly ajar for when/if she hits the wall.

If that happens then the really hard bit starts I suppose.

Cheers Sandi