Finally talked to my friend and a lot was said to her about me from my H. I won’t bore everyone with all the details. He denied the A, which I knew he would. We are just friends he said to them. I asked my friend what her overall impression was from him about us. She said honestly, I believe he is done and wants a D as soon as possible. Of course I was upset, broke down crying. Right then I had decided I can’t do this anymore and that I was going to file for D first thing Monday morning. Here is where it gets interesting
As soon as I got off the phone with her, my H is at my bedroom door knocking (I had no idea he was coming over). He said he needed to pick up some tools. I debated on whether to come out of my bedroom, because I didn’t want him to see me in this state. I decided to come out, and he seen me all upset and asked what was wrong. I just told him that I was having a bad day. He grabbed me, and started hugging me and I lost all my strength and started telling him how much I missed him. He started to cry, told me he was so confused and lost, and didn’t know what to do about us. I validated, and told him I can’t tell him what to do and that he had to figure that out for himself. We continued talking for about an hour, each of us telling the other how we felt and how we are both miserable. He asked if we could spend some time together tomorrow, and I said yes.
2x4 welcome.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
