You are not learning from your mistakes. You have made a very bad mistake this time. Will you learn from it? I mean, will you have the strength not to repeat it?

I do not believe you trust the principles that we give you and you act on your co-dependent emotions. Based on what you have told us, it seems that everytime the two of you have been together, something is usually said or done by you that she does not respond to well. Yet, you continue doing what doesn't work.

As much as you've been told to go dark and stop contacting her....you've continued to do what your emtions dictated. Even now as you are seeking help, all you can think about is when she comes over and what you'll say to do.

As much as I want to help, I don't know how, if you won't listen to what is advised. We all have told you to pull back and stop pursuing......even she has told time and again to stop pressing, but you continue doing it.

So, what is your advice to us about you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!