Poster: OldPilot Subject: Re: He said he is done!!
Quote: off topic OldPilot - I see you are from peekskill NY.. small world I lived there until I was 12 years!! Are you on the alt?
Did I miss the answer to this?
On the alt ??? I am on Florida
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
I took everyone's advise - I got into H's email...HE LIED!! Now I am wondering how stupid am I and I consider myself pretty smart. Denial SUCKS!
I confronted him over the phone and of course he denied at first - couldn't deny once I said I had seen the emails (even one from Friday stating how much he loved her - This has been going on since August! He has even been looking at divorce advise websites since September! Know that this really doesn't matter - BUT (just venting) she is not even attractive! After about 3 minutes I hung up on him - after I told him to go ahead and file for the BIG D! I have always raised my kids that cheating is unacceptable - I can not accept this and I know in a year from now this OW will be gone - after all he found her on CRAIGSLIST! HOW SICK!! wonder if she knows that he has been looking for other women on craigslist besides her!
Looked at about 100 emails - HOW dare he send her pictures of our children!! Oh and a picture of him on our 20th anniversary trip in Oct 2009! She even replied - "my favorite picture".
The one thing I hate is that my D's saw me have a panic attack!!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
Sitting here reading the "legal" stuff of divorce. THIS SUCKS! He has stated again it is over.
When do I start the process ? Should I file - make him file ?
He even told my S19 last night - "your mother thinks I am leaving her for another woman" well if there was not another woman - the problems would not have gotten this BIG!~ I take my part in the issues - BUT I refuse to take any responsibility in him going to another woman. I was not a 'happy camper' either - I never strayed from the marriage!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
When do I start the process ? Should I file - make him file ?
What do you want? Don't answer right this minute. Stop and think about that answer. Is this new revelation a deal breaker? After you have those answers then you can form your plan of what you want to do.
I want a relationship with Love - trust - communication and all the good stuff that goes with that - doesn't answer the question as to what to do now. I just know I can not continue to be in this state of mind. Somehow after knowing the details - seeing the emails and IMs I feel empowered this morning.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
Well - just had "the conversion" with the H - OVER - I can not do this! I deserve more than this and making me and my kids the priority.
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
When I started this with DB - Lost not gone was meant for my marriage - now it stands FOR ME!!I was lost and I am finding myself!
LNG Me - 37 H - 42 S - 19 D - 16 D - 14 M - 20 years S - 1/11/2010 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1942142&page=1
