Fast track to her divorcing me

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She lived with me for a month after the bomb. I went into 007 spy mode in that time and have yet to find any real evidence of an OM or PA, only a possible long distance EA and not 100% sure of that either.

She has always admitted that the problem was hers and not me and I made sure (wrong or right) that family and friends knew that I was not the bad guy. Truth is, only she knows why she is leaving me and she may not even know herself.

She has been living by herself now for about 3 weeks and this weekend she has been contacting me a lot. She is starting to want to do things with me. Why so soon?

I have considered that she may simply be using me but there is the slight chance that she actually is starting to miss me. This is what I want but I just do not know where her heart is. Im not giving it too much hope. I have my guard up and I still hurt.

Im not sure what I should do now. Im confused. I thought going dark would be a good thing but SHE is initiating contact with me now and it feels good. I have no real reason to reject her as I do not know if there is an OP for sure. I am starting to wonder if this is the case.

You may be correct though that she may simply be waiting for our divorce date on 9Feb2010 to drop an OP-bomb on me with some dirtbag that she has known for months if not years. But right now Im totally in the dark on what she is doing.

Im just not sure whether I should continue being grey or be receptive of her wanting to spend time with me. Sure didnt take long for her to start contacting me so this has me skeptical. I feel that maybe she is realizing now that living alone is not all she thought it would be. Only she knows for sure.

I think I will be receptive to her and civil but with no expectations. Ill let her decide if she wants to spend time with me and see where it goes. Good strategy?