Quote: Should I keep on reasurring him how little it affects me where and what I do if we are together?
Yes, keep doing this. We hear it and believe it sometimes. But don't forget, we're hunter and gatherers. If we don't bring home enough meat, we're going to feel bad. We will think we have failed you. To shield you from these feelings, we will shut you off from them. My W would always try to get into my head and I wouldn't let her. No need for her to deal with this man's business. Get him a card or two once and awhile. M W used to get a card at the drop of the hat. I used to poo poo at them but them meant something then. I was looking at them earlier today with tears in my eyes wishing we were there again.
Quote: Also, I have asked my H many times what he likes me to do for him, as a way of showing my love and appreciation to him, but he always says "nothing" and that actually gets me pretty mad. What do you males normally would like to see from your wife's that tells you that you are appreciated, admired and supported? I feel pretty stupid, but I really don't think I have been good at this otherwise we wouldn't be having problems.
The reason I would answer this question like this because in my macho mind I don't want you to put yourself out. I've already caused you enough grief. Just saying it's ok is good. We may come back and say it won't be but that sticks with us. I'm looking on my desk at a plaque my W gave me when I was going through a hard time. It says believe. Again, I have a tear in my eyes wishing those times were here again.
That's all the material I have. I hope my ramblings help. Check out my thread and see if you can offer any advice to help the kid out. W wants out of sex starved marriage! Help!!
