How does selling to him and moving elsewhere feel? You mentioned he moved to another city with OW. Are you selling the house to him? Or have you both agreed just to sell and start fresh?
That is really what I want. Neither of us gets the house, and we are both faced with packing up and making new choices.
My friend last night pointed out that X isn't having to deal with any of the "death" involved in this. I am facing the death of the R, the death of my living space, the death of my place in town. If he gets the house, he does not have to face the loss of anything. I don't know if he realizes yet how many friends he has lost.
But to be honest, his guy friends, once biking season starts up again, will just be guys and shrug it off as "life goes on." So he may never feel that pain, either.
How are you making the decisions on where to live? does your job keep you where you are? would you consider a whole new job, town, life? Do you talk these things over with friends, IC, family?
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
