The one thing I think you should keep in mind is what you posted y'day after you received the diagnosis for your son. You said "I have no words". And that is okay! It is shocking and frightening to get a firm medical diagnosis even if deep down we know something is terribly wrong.
Your H might have felt the same when you told him. He may not have expressed it to you but since he did sort of shut down and not show much emotion either way perhaps he was also in a place of "having no words".
I guess what I am trying to suggest is not to try and speculate too much what your H is thinking about this news. You both need to time to process this as individuals, then co-parents and maybe one day something more.
Anyhow, just wanted to check in on you and see how you felt today.
