I can relate to the deep and severe hurt. I still experience it from time to time and it is mind blowing. I consider myself to be rather detached but I think, even two years later, I am really starting to understand that detachment does not equal never hurting again.
IMO it is perfectly acceptable to set communication boundaries with your W at this time. And really, the boundary is for your well being so you can have the necessary space to work on you, heal and regroup.
