I think this forum rocks! and you know why? because you guys are giving advice from "the front line", and I am getting a pretty good idea of how a guy might think, and believe me , my dear H is like a nightware on the feeling sharing department, he is the total macho man who SAYS "I doesn't need anything" I know that is not true , but man is he stubborn and uncommunicative.

I am working in stopping the nagging , which so far has been pretty successful, since I have being able to contain it almost every time, and yesterday as soon as one bad comment "scaped" out of my mouth--I really couldn't help it -- I apologized to him for my behavior and hugged him and kissed him.

I am also going to work on supporting him with his job problem. I think I have done well before, but somehow he feels responsible still. I happened to have moved to this town with him when he got what he thought was his dream job, which unfortunately turned out to be a huge disapointment for him, BUT, I found a GREAT job that I love and he knows that, so even though I have absolutely no problems with leaving this job and moving away when he get a job in a town we like better, I think he still feels bad about it, very responsible. I have told him many times that a job , regardless of how much I like it, means nothing to me if he is not there, so I am truly , from the bottom of my heart OK with it, but somehow he still thinks he is asking too much ??? I don't quite get that, to me a job is just a job. Should I keep on reasurring him how little it affects me where and what I do if we are together?

Also, I have asked my H many times what he likes me to do for him, as a way of showing my love and appreciation to him, but he always says "nothing" and that actually gets me pretty mad. What do you males normally would like to see from your wife's that tells you that you are appreciated, admired and supported? I feel pretty stupid, but I really don't think I have been good at this otherwise we wouldn't be having problems.

Any "secrets" ---and BTW, no sex, since he is the LD spouse, that would apply more for me --