I would have to agree with Cathy. Please do not make this a you issue. My W did this. Now, she reads like the bullet points in the SSM book add. Nearly word for word. Realize that you are a beautiful woman. You H has the problem. I didn't realize how much of a problem I had until it was too late. Depression is a slick thing. It will creep up on you before you know it. You'll/I wound up in my own little world of anger, pain and such. I tried not to share those feelings with my W. I guess I was macho. Looking back, if I had talked to her about things, she would have known it's not her it was me.
I don't have any advice on getting your H to the doctor. Quite frankly with me, it was my W getting on meds and telling me she thinks I needed them too. She led by example. Not to say you need to get on anything. After 2 weeks, she reported the old Blackrook was back. The cat even liked me.
I just read your last thread again. I will say that my previous jobs were a constant source of anger with me. I would try to leave the stuff there. It was hard. My W tried to listen as best she could. It's easier said than done to quit and do something else. I knew I couldn't quit. I was making good money and had obligations. This kind of hit my manhood a bit. Manhood hits in my opinion can come from anywhere. Just try to listen. Shake your head whether you care or not. If you've heard the same story, please just listen.
