I can tell you that my H has been depressed for a couple of months now, which has made sex not scarse, but nonexistant. He tells me the reasons for his depression has nothing to do with our marriage, but mostly with his job and the fact we live in a town he dislikes.
Answering your question about timming of my conversations with him and if I nag, I can tell you that my timing is usually ok but I have let anger get the best of me, even treatening to leave him on occation. I am not proud of that. Which is why I changed my approach and tried to be very understanding and give him his space. I am waiting for him to be out of his depression before I do anything else. Unfortunately I am so hurt that it is very difficult not to show it. I am trying to be the best wife I can, but my hurt is transforming into anger that is spilling in other areas of our marriage. I have become a nag and I know it. I am making a concious decision not to nag anymore, but I am like a time bomb and that is why I said that I feel like I am drowning...in my own sorrow and pain. Sorry to sound so melodramatic but I am desperate, I burst into tear even at work when I think about this situation.
He told me he is not willing to be checked by a doctor either and that we just have to wait for the depression to go away and that then we can see if the sex improves.
What do I do? I feel like the worse person for feeling so angry at him when he needs me to be calm and wait. Unfortunately time is working with oposite results on us.
Please, write your thoughts, any idea, even if it is to tell me what a selfish woman I am (that is how I feel) will be taken with the outmost gratitude.
