As mentioned I have been detaching. My wife and I both ended up at my daughters in another town to spend the night. I was nice, but not clingy or responding to her flirts.
The next morning I asked if anyone was going to breakfast and was told no they were going shopping so I went on my own. Within a few minutes she called my phone and I let it ring and did not pull up the message until this afternoon. She was livid with the way I was treating her and angry about a comment on how she spent her $ cuz she never tells me how to spend mine, and would be bringing "my" phone back (this is a usual response) and no more would she be treated like this. She later called and I asked what she was talking about, that I made no such comment, and that I was giving her space. She said that when she told us (my daughter and I) that she had lost her wallet with $300 in it and had it returned I said something about that. I responed that yes, both my D and I mentioned it must be nice to have that kind of $. That was it. It was like your 13 yr old saying-I did'nt get my way so I'm mad and throwing the phone at you. I said let's sit down and talk tomorrow when I get home.
I am ready to lay it out there, but I highly doubt she'll get any of it. I'd like to ask her what is wrong with the way I am treating you? How should I be treating you? What is correct in your mind? At Christmas I thought I was smothering her and she left. Now I give her space and time and she's mad. How should I treat you? What are the groundrules? I see I have not supported you in your decision to leave and get a D and that with the way you feel about the M I should do that, and when can we meet with your paralegal.
Am I off base here? We HAVE to talk at this point. It's time to get it out there. What should I say?
Definitly in wierdo mode here. Is this her hormones in OD?
