Moving on with my life!

[Startingover2]

I'm curious, what is your "perfect" scenario, if you guys are still D, how much contact would you think is right for him to initiate? If he wasn't bringing tons of drama in your life, that is.

Thats a good but tough question ST. If I removed my own feelings, hurts, and emotions it would be a bit easier to compromise I think. Honestly any time he tries to cake eat in regards to his schedule of visits I get this anger feeling like the BS continues and he is still running amuck in our lives. I know that he is her father and has his rights, but he also blew this family and his daughter all to hell several times so I know she isn't a priority. So when he gets off of the norm I work like heck to keep it in line to keep some sort of control. It may or may not be good, but its the only way I can keep pushing forward.

Like today...He sent a text an hour before his time was supposed to start asking if he can come by because he had to pick up his other D13 during the visit and drive her somewhere. Well baby was sleeping so I didn't bother letting him know until it was 15 minutes before he had to pick up his D. Not on purpose, but that is when baby woke up. So he had 10 minutes with baby and left...saying he 'may' be back. I told him I needed to know within the hour or I was making other plans. He just assumed I was going to sit here for the next 3 hours waiting to see if he was going to feel like coming back or not! He sent a text saying he wasn't going to make it back and would call AFTER he went hunting in the morning! Again...his visit time is 8-10. He most likely will not get back from hunting till close to 10 at least. So instead of seeing his daughter he is choosing hunting and assumes I will just let him do that because I have no other life!

I plan on leaving at 10 whether he is here or not. That is the kind of stuff that drives me nuts.