Sorry Allen. I thought you were disagreeing with my statement. " Any counselor worth seeing will NOT see a couple while an affair is ongoing!" Glad we kinda agree!
Except here: " Individual counsellors are not the same thing as a family therapist."
Licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) IS a counselor and does individual counseling as well as couples counseling and whole family counseling.
Re: "Many people having affairs use their affair partners AS counsellors... thats part of the reason why counsellors are licensed... they ARE in a compromising position and need to maintain ethical standards..."
I believe people do this as a way to connect with potential/ current affair partners. "rescue me, save me, my-Spouse-is-so-bad-we-just-have-to-sleep-together, etc. It feeds the drama. And, of course, the things 2 people experiencing distorted thinking patterns come up with are distorted.
A good counselor will challenge these distortions (ie denial, justification, projection, etc).
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
