I disagree Allen. I do agree that the individuals should seek IC but any couples work would be unproductive. The straying partner is not usually thinking rationally, (using one or more "distorted thinking patterns") and may even attend and not participate fully or be honest (usually not even honest with themselves). Often counseling ends after a few sessions, with the straying partner claiming, "see, I tried and it failed". I believe that partner needs counseling to help them identify their distortions of reality. The betrayed needs help with the trauma. Different goals, different counselors, or at least separate sessions, while the affair is continuing.
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