Hi, all, I appreciate all of your words of advice.
I'm okay with the doorway or even the foyer, because there are times when I have been asked by our S's to step into her foyer to see something -- or to step just across her threshold to close the door and keep the cold or heat outside. Sometimes it's a practical necessity, though I don't want to abuse it any more than I want her too.
Fortunately xW seems to have gotten a clue and has started refraining from entering unless necessary. I just wish she would refrain from trying to make it a regular habit to drop by my place on her way to work when I have the kids. The frequency is a bit much for me, and I find it disruptive when we're trying to get out the door ourselves.
But my S's seem to appreciate it, so I can live with it up to a point. And she has taken to ask my S's the night before, during the nightly call, to ask them if they want her to stop by the following morning. (Of course, they say yes.)
