beginning to see the real W

[oldtimer]

"My mind keeps flip flopping between just coming out and telling wife if she does not want to be married then she needs to file for D"

OK, you know this makes no sense. Why would you be in a position to know what she "needs" to do with respect to D???? It's a little crazy.

What you need to say to YOURSELF is "either I accept things as they are OR I require change to stay married."

Pick up PM again...