I think you are probably right about your W being on her on for a while. She does not realize now how hard and lonely that could be. I believe that she could come to an awakening as to what she could lose in you.
My W also had lady health problems when she became a WAW. There was a time that I too thought she was possibly suicidal.
I dont want to raise your hopes much, but my wife and I had 3 miscarriages before we finally had our first born. And my brothers wife had a similar operation as your W at 40 and the doctors told her that it was impossible for her to have a child. But she did have a miracle happen and they have a 9 year old boy the same age as mine.
