Now how does this square with her odd date-asking-out-on? Obviously I can't read her mind, and I can't say for sure, but if I had to hypothesize it would go like this: The guilt she feels at breaking apart the family -- and she claims to feel guilt -- also induces her to try (or, perhaps, to want to try) to salvage some kind of positive affect for me.
As if maintaining a positive, even caring (of a kind), relationship with me post-divorce will assuage the guilt and justify the decision -- "see, it wasn't so bad!" But when she's in crisis, when the hot line is jangling between Washington and Moscow, that notional "get along" veneer is ripped away and her true -- and truly negative -- feelings about me are given free reign.
Just a guess, of course, but an informed one and (I suspect) not one that's far off the mark.
Dog thinks likely.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
