Any counselor worth seeing will NOT see a couple while an affair is ongoing!
We found 2 LMFT's in the same office and signed forms to allow THEM to communicate about us, with the idea we would stay on the same page and not recieve conflicting advice. This has worked so far. Each counselor knows what the other partner is doing and why.
I suggest offering WS a copy of "Not Just Friends". He doesn't yet seem to be in a place to "see" himself yet tho. My WS still insists "their relationship" is different than every one else's, even tho it is textbook!
Your H is feeling ambivalent, having a hard time letting go of the A. This is normal. However the end of the A comes about, it will be awhile before his head clears. Don't worry about that. Remove yourself from the chaos til his dust settles.
If he asks to return, what boundaries and conditions are you prepared to set?
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
