Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Well a little update.

This week, my oldest D came down with a bad cold. I told my W about it on Wed. and that I was keeping her home from school. I also mentioned that I think she should stay home with me that night at least so that she gets another night of rest without be shuffled around.

She adamantly refused. She accused me of keeping the girls from her and even said she'd call the cops on me if I didn't let her take my D. Needless to say I was pretty pissed. I fired back that I never said she couldn't see my D and that she could take the youngest one. It's just that I felt it better that for ONE NIGHT she just stay and not be moved around. I also told her to never threaten me with the police again as I had swallowed enough of her crap and that I never caused her any issues or stopped her from ever seeing the kids even when they were on my time.

I told her that she had never invited me to anything when they were with her, which is fine by me, but she had no right to make it sound like I was "kidnapping" the kids. I told her by threatening with the police, that she had no right to play the "victim" card. I told her that I had quite enough of that. She tried to cut me off to change the direction of the convo, but I wasn't having anything of it. Uh Uh. No way was she going to keep playing the victim when she was the one causing everything.

She kept saying how her sister's place was where she lived now and it was where she was going to take care of them. I told her that in her whole conversation, all I kept hearing was the word 'I'. Not once did she mention what was better for the girls. So I called her on that to. I told her to stop being so damned selfish and think of the girls for a change.

In the end, she said she'd think about letting our D stay the night. Un-freaking-believable. Well that was in the morning.

Later in the day, she called, all nice nice and asked how my D was doing. I told her she was doing fine and said that if she wanted to come over like I offered, she was more than welcome to. She said she would and I asked her to pick up some food.

That night she came and was very pleasant and polite. After dinner I asked her what her decision was and she said she was taking the kids. Unreal! This is when my oldest D was sleeping in her room sick with a 102 fever. I told her no, so she said she'll ask our D. Of course our D said she didn't want to go, so my W left with our youngest. As she was leaving, she thanked me for staying home to watch our oldest.

Thursday my D was still sick so I kept her home again. My W came over to watch her so that I could go to work. Because of her attitude the day before, I expected her to whisk the kids away first thing in the morning when they got up. I was surprised when she called me at work late in the afternoon to say how my D was. When I got home that night, they were gone, but I got to talk to them on the phone to say goodnight.

So today my W calls me early saying how my D was still sick and that she's taking her in to see the doctor. I told her fine and that I would meet her there later in the afternoon. She called later in the morning and needless to say, I was surprised when I looked at my caller i.d. and she was calling from our home. The house that she pretty adamantly refused to go to. She just called to give me a status of our D and was again very friendly.

Times like this I think what works is to put your foot down and command the respect back from them. Once I decided I wasn't taking anymore crap from her when she tries to dish things out, this is the response I've been getting. When we're not like that, we get along great.

I keep having to think of her as a child who needs to be disciplined when she gets too 'out of line'. But be loving at the same time.

Gee what's that tingling between my legs? I think I just got my balls back!