Arg - the piecing devil is rearing its head - now that communication lines are open, more calmness prevails, hidden painful feelings are emerging! Taking the focus off H and onto myself can be painful! No wonder I focus on fixing him instead of myself!
In addition to validating all the hurtful things I did/need to change in the R, my amnesia is disappearing about the hurtful things H said/did. Like yelling at me when I went into labor. Like calling me an "a$$hole" first thing Mother's Day morning. Like how I felt I was walking on eggshells for years...grrrrr
